Well, it’s official. I have been a mother of two children for six months now. How did this happen so fast already? I have learned so many things since my journey of being a mom, and having two little girls to love has taught me patience, the balance between leeway and strict, and having to take a long, hard look at myself.
This was the first month that I have been doing this parenting thing alone and it’s been hard. If you’re curious to see how Everly being five months old went, keep on reading!
Growth
My baby hit a growth spurt this month – it’s one of the things that people comment the most about, that she’s long, and she really is! She hasn’t had a pediatrician appointment this month so I’m unsure about exact measurements but she’s officially in the 6 month clothing and is still in size 2 diapers. She feels so heavy, especially since 9/10 times, she’s in my arms.
Feeding
Unlike last month, Everly has been taken off of baby food for now. I have been noticing that it really messes with her belly and it caused horrible tummy pains for her. So, for now, she’s going to be nursing and even THAT seems to cause her tummy pains. I never had these problems before but man, oh man, it can be daunting when she’s either cluster feeding or backed up. I have no concerns and her spitting up has gotten a little better this month, but I feel so bad when I see her upset.
Sleeping
The thing about co-sleeping is that babies typically sleep “through the night” (well, both of my kids did) but the bad thing is that they KNOW when you’re not in bed anymore. My girls go to bed at around 6:30 PM and are up early in the morning. I like to have some me-time before I head to bed so when Everly falls asleep, I sneak out of the room to play video games, read, watch TV, snack on a million things, or do whatever it is that makes my heart happy. It can be frustrating when she wakes every couple of minutes for me to return; it’s not really like that but it certainly feels like it.
Everly has been sleeping really well in regards to through the night. I don’t fully remember waking up through the night for her to nurse. I just sleep topless and she helps herself – that’s pretty awesome! Right? RIGHT?!
The problem lies when she has the entire day in my arms because she doesn’t like being away from me. I used to be able to set her in the swing and she would sleep. Man, I miss those days so much! She barely goes down for a nap during the day (which is great for development, not so great when I can’t get anything done) and when she does, it doesn’t feel long at all – which is why nighttime is so important to me.
Not only is this the problem but I have to choose between me-time and sleep I have two young kids and one is an early riser. I have this dilemma every single night: “Do I stay up late and want to die tomorrow?” Or, do I want to risk being grumpy in a different way because it’s been eight days since I have had two seconds to myself and I will go INSANE.
Still, I know it can be worse and I’m happy that she’s sleeping through the night like a normal human being.
Firsts & Milestones
I mentioned before that this was the first month that I have been a “single mom” and man, it fucking sucks! I have so much respect for single parents because this shit is hard. I’m tired all the time and add an extra bit of tired on top of that.
But this month was crazy!
First of all, Everly started the beginning stages of crawling… CRAWLING! I knew that it would be relatively soon because she started to figure out that she can move on her own if she uses her arms and legs. Yes, sometimes she crawls like a zombie searching for their next snack but she moves, fast! This makes getting ANYTHING done next to impossible. The good thing is that it’s going to get me to clean this messy apartment, the bad news? I have to clean this apartment.
The other first?
She FINALLY has her first tooth! It cut through a few days ago and it was a rough transition. The night before, she was SCREAMING. It made my heart break how much pain she was in. She was pissed, she bit my chin, she drooled all over my face, and she was crying. I bounced, kissed, and told her that it’s going to be okay and the next morning? She had her first tooth. It’s her bottom, middle, tooth and I’m so happy for her.
Both of her firsts/milestones made me really sad that I couldn’t share the happiness with her father. There is only so much energy you can get from outside people… but hey, my mom was happy for us!
Mood
It seems like my baby is either super happy or the crabbiest little babe you have ever seen. That’s not quite true, I’m really fortunate that she’s not as bad as she could be, but man, she really is hard to keep entertained. She seems to know what she likes and she’s not afraid to tell you about it. She has moments where she laughs those amazing, belly laughs, but then she’s screaming at the top of her little lungs; you would think that’s not a lot but you would be surprised.
We visited my parents for a few days and they got a first glimpse of how much she hates being away from me. I did notice that she did a little better with being held by them because she used to get scared.
She can be found laughing, smiling, and focusing on every little thing that is close by.
Loves & Doesn’t Love
Everly loves being held, kissed, tickled, and talked to. We also started using the Moby wrap this month and we LOVE it. She doesn’t love being away from me, loud noises, or having the thing she’s playing with taken from her. She also HATES baths.
Favorites
Her favorite thing is definitely her stacking toy. She loves playing with the little rings and feeling the different textures. She also has been using the keys that Aubri had as a baby and she seems to love the car seat!
My mommy favorite for this month has definitely been the Moby wrap. It allows me to get some things done and I have NO idea how I could ever go back. If you have a fussy, clingy baby, definitely give baby-wearing a try. I had to switch carriers but the $50 I spent on it was definitely worth it.
Things I want to remember:
I want to remember how happy she is whenever I pick her up. I want to remember the happy feeling that I get when she’s comforted by presence. I want to remember how beautiful her blue eyes are and how shocked I am that she still has her blue eyes. I want to remember the feeling I get when she reaches for me in her sleep and her happy laughing. I want to remember how much her and her big sister get along. I want to remember that she is a mommy’s girl and will never be this little again.
A typical day
As usual, we wake up at around 7AM and she lays in the bed while I use the bathroom, take my meds, and get Aubri her breakfast and then I change her diaper and start our day. The entire day is spent either on the floor or her in my arms; sometimes I’m luck to get her down for a nap in the mid-morning, early afternoon area. We do a lot of playing now and then she’s ready for bed between 5 and 8 and she will just wake to nurse.
Thanks for reading and have a great day.